it’s not going to turn out the way you thought.

I found this gem of a piece by Kate Northrup of the Freedom Tour. Be sure to check out her blog!


It will happen later. His best friend will ask you out instead. You’ll be kissed in the movies instead of on a beach. You’ll end up going to a different school because the one you thought you’d get into didn’t work out.

She’ll move away. Someone else will move in next door. She’ll be a little weird at first, a little more shy, but ultimately really good at riding bikes and playing dolls.

That part you always wanted will go to that other girl instead. And you’ll rock it out in the chorus like your life depended on it. Because on some level it does.

The road you were going to take will be flooded and closed. The inn where you were going to stay will be under renovations. He’ll be taller than you thought. And have a funny accent. But will be a good kisser nonetheless.

You’ll get a flat tire on the way to that crucial meeting and end up peeing your pants laughing with the gas station attendant over a copy of Us Magazine. And someone else will fill in for you because they always do.

You won’t get that dream job like you thought you would. It will go to someone else with far less creative drive and vision than you. Someone far better suited for a cubicle than you.

You’ll be put in groups with people who put your panties in a wrinkle. You’ll sit next to someone on the plane who you’d never talk to except that they won’t shut up…and you’ll end up staying in touch for years and taking family vacations together.

Five years after you graduate life won’t look anything like you would have imagined. You’ll be single when you thought you’d be married. You’ll have kids when you thought you’d be in the Peace Corps. That trip to Laos will get delayed because you’ve got to stay home and take care of your grandmother. Laos will be there. You’re grandmother won’t always.

He’ll move over seas and oddly the Atlantic Ocean between you will bring you closer than you ever dreamed possible. You won’t get engaged, married, or pregnant when you thought.  You’ll miss the bus/train/plane/ferry that you thought you just HAD to be on.

You’ll fall off the turnip truck. You’ll jump on a different bandwagon than you intended.  You’ll get fired when you thought you ought to be getting hired.

You’ll realize you forgot the outfit you had planned to wear and that the shoes are all wrong now that you have a full-length mirror to see the whole outfit. Your shirt will be wrinkled and you’ll spill red wine on your white jeans.

Your dog will eat your five-year plan. You’ll drop your Blackberry in the toilet (at least once.) Your computer will crash and you’ll delete the first draft of your magnum opus. You’ll accidentally delete your hard drive and end up with a clean slate.

You’ll show up late to the date with the guy you were sure was going to fit into your husband suit and realize he’s less than graceful under stress and not so flexible. (Better to know now than later.)

When you thought you’d be baking pie and living behind your very own white picket fence you’ll find yourself doing something so entirely different you couldn’t have even imagined it a year before.  There will be moments when you’ll look around and not even recognize your own life…in a good way.

You’ll take a wrong turn and end up in an entirely different city than you intended. You’ll dial the wrong number and end up in love with an entirely different person than you intended.

You’ll flunk out and end up taking five years instead of four to graduate. You’ll have your heart broken when you were sure you were with the one and then meet the other one a month later. You’ll move to a new city to start a new business with those perfect new business partners and then it will all go to shit. And you’ll move across the country again only to realize that that’s where you belonged the whole time.

You’ll drive as far away from home as possible thinking that it will make you feel free. Then you’ll get homesick and drive back four months later because you suddenly feel trapped.

You’ll imagine the open road, country music playing loud, you signing at the top of your lungs, and flirting with a new man in every town. And then you’ll invite someone to come with you on a whim and realize driving around the country by yourself was a terrible idea anyway…and that it’s way more fun when you’re traveling with someone you love.

You won’t do it at the right time.

You’ll be late.

You’ll be early.

You’ll get re-routed.

You’ll get delayed.

You’ll change your mind.

You’ll change your heart.

It’s not going to turn out the way you thought it would.

It will be better.


About Kate:

I’m a CEO (Creative Expansion Optimist), multi- passionate entrepreneur, yogini, dancer, artist, researcher on what it takes to thrive, and seeker. This blog is a chronicle of my seeking with a thick layer of authenticity icing. I’m dedicated to the art, science, and practice of loving life and I promise to deliver the best of my research to you, my delightful reader. I’m the CEO of Team Northrup, a league of entrepreneurs aligned with the work of my mother, Dr. Christiane Northrup, who use personal growth as a business building strategy while creating residual income and optimal health with our product partner, USANA Health Sciences, with whom we are Independent Associates.

I’ve never had a “real” job for more than a few months and I’ve been an entrepreneur since the age of six when I co-founded my first business, Queen Ann’s Lace and Katiedids, with my sister Ann Moller. I graduated from Brown University Magna Cum Laude with a degree in the History of Art and Architecture, though I spent most of my time there doing West African Dance and building my business.

In February 2011 I’m embarking on an indefinite road trip called “The Freedom Tour” to teach and inspire people to create financial, emotional, and spiritual freedom. I created financial freedom for myself at the age of twenty-four and I’m on a mission to inspire as many people as possible to do the same. My belief is that if you free yourself up financially you can then be fully present to your true purpose on the planet and to making the world a better place.

Be sure to join my list to be kept abreast of all of the adventures and to find out when I’ll be coming to your hometown so we can meet!


Tweets: @katenorthrup

4 thoughts on “it’s not going to turn out the way you thought.

  1. I know I’ve told you this already but this is seriously the most brilliant thing I have ever read. I just love love it!!! And even more so, I LOVE THE NOTEBOOK DOODLES!!! I’ve reblogged that exact one before because it is just so true! xx.

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